E5 P1: How Do I Communicate with the People I Love? - with Cristy Slozka

Why Is Communication Hardest With The People We Love?

We all want to feel understood, especially by the people we love most. But why is it that the people closest to us—our spouses, partners, children—are often the ones we communicate worst with?

That’s exactly what we explore in our latest podcast episode, with Janelle’s friend Cristy. Cristy shares her experience of working hard to improve communication at work and with friends—listening better, making room for others' perspectives—but still bumping up against walls at home with her husband and kids.

If you’ve ever found yourself snapping, shutting down, or just recycling the same old arguments with your loved ones, you’re not alone.

The Real Reason We Struggle

Ron shares why communication is hardest where it matters most:

“The closer the relationship, the higher the expectations—and the deeper the patterns.”

When you’ve lived with someone for years, your conversations start to run on autopilot. Instead of listening with fresh ears, we anticipate. We assume. We shortcut. And if we’re honest, we don’t always bring our best communication skills home with us.

A Tool You Can Start Using Today

Ron shares a simple method to defuse arguments before they explode. He also teaches a communication approach that ensures everyone—including you—feels heard and understood.

Spoiler: it starts with presence. Not just hearing the words but really listening. And it takes practice—lots of it. But like any new language, fluency comes with time and intention.

Your Takeaway

Whether you’re navigating tough conversations with a partner, a teenager, or even your parents, this episode is packed with “aha” moments and practical tools.

The big takeaway? Communication isn’t just about saying the right words. It’s about creating the right conditions—for connection, safety, and understanding.

⏭️ Listen to E17 | How Do I Communicate With The People I Love? with Cristy Slozka: The Follow up